The Gift of Family Meals

“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!”— Psalm 133:1, NKJV

Unity is a hallmark of being a Christian. Jesus emphasizes in His prayer for us that we [Christians, followers of the Way] could be one, just as He and His Father are one. (John 17:21-23)

If that is ever going to be a reality in Christian communities, it must start with unity in the home. Sometimes, it is easier said than done. The problem is that the business of life affects the family unit the most.

But unity within the family doesn't have to be complicated. In fact, it can begin one meal at a time.

There’s something sacred about gathering around a table. Not just to eat, but to be present with one another. No rushing, no screens, no distractions, just an opportunity, carved out of the day where we sit with one another.

Families are meant to share life together. But according to an April 1, 2020, article, The Benefit of Family Mealtime, by Jill Anderson, "..., only about 30% of families manage to eat together regularly." (Taken from here)

Why? Maybe business. Perhaps it's because we're disconnected from one another. Something different or worse? But often it may just be because no one has made them a priority.

Ellen White captured this beautifully when she wrote:

"Mealtime should be a season for social intercourse and refreshment. Everything that can burden or irritate should be banished. Let trust and kindliness and gratitude to the Giver of all good be cherished, and the conversation will be cheerful, a pleasant flow of thought that will uplift without wearying. The table is not a place where rebellion should be cultivated in the children by some unreasonable course pursued by the parents. The whole family should eat with gladness, with gratitude, remembering that those who love and obey God will partake of the marriage supper of the Lamb in the kingdom of God, and Jesus Himself will serve them" - Child Guidance, p. 387

Meals don’t have to be perfect. But each family member does need to be present. It's ok to be real people, tired, joyful, frustrated, or hopeful, as long as we come together.

Prioritize having a daily meal together. It is designed as a time when families can fellowship together. It’s where stories are told, forgiveness is modeled, gratitude is practiced, and little lessons about life and faith are passed down.

In another place, Ellen White talked about family meal times, saying:

“The table should be a place where kindness and courtesy are expressed. The family table is a school where children receive their most lasting lessons.” - The Ministry of Healing, p. 392

That quote resonates with me. It reminds me that mealtime is not just a break during the day, but a moment of teaching and bonding. It’s a classroom where children learn important lessons like treating others with kindness, listening attentively, praying, and practicing patience, because everyone, including each family member, is present.

Here's a simple challenge for this week: Pick one meal each day to be fully present. Sit down together. Pray. Talk. Listen. Laugh. Keep it unhurried, even if it’s brief. Let the table become a place of peace once more.

You don’t need to overhaul your entire life to create meaningful moments. Simply sit down and be fully present. God bless you as you undertake this challenge.